As the child grows, he gains autonomy and independence. As a consequence, he stops accepting the control exercised by adults and begins to demand his rights and wants to enforce his preferences. However, often their cravings for independence are ahead of their abilities, so frustration does not take long to appear, either when parents impose certain limits or when they cannot perform a certain task because they do not have the necessary skills.
However, making mistakes is part of development and learning. Therefore, making mistakes and feeling frustrated is not always negative, the problem appears when the child is not able to handle frustration and has little tolerance for failure and mistakes. Fortunately, parents can teach them to be more tolerant. How to do it?
Let him be wrong
No parent wants their child to make mistakes and suffer disappointments, but mistakes are also learned and it will be very difficult for a child to deal with frustration if they never make mistakes . Give your child the opportunity to do things for himself, avoid overprotectiveness, and allow him to make decisions or engage in tasks and activities that represent a challenge for his current developmental level. Only then will you mature and learn to handle frustration.
Help him identify frustration
When children are young, they are not able to recognize their own emotions so they cannot identify frustration, which they often express through irritability and aggressiveness. One of the parents’ missions is to teach him to recognize the first signs of frustration and to explain what this state consists of. Point out that when he makes a mistake, can’t do something, or faces a limit, frustration can set in. Also, explain that this feeling is not positive because it makes him lose patience and generates anger or sadness. If the child learns to recognize the first signs of frustration, he will be able to change activities before becoming angry.
Teach him to ask for help
Perseverance is one of the values that we all want to develop in our children, but there is a very fine line between tenacity and stubbornness. And children should be aware of it. Explain that it is important to make an effort to achieve a goal but that it is also valid to ask for help when we are stuck and cannot keep moving forward. If you are faced with a problem, it is good to persist and try to find other solutions, but if you do not succeed, you should know that your parents are there to help you.
Encourage him to participate in a role play
Most children love to act out characters so a great strategy to teach them to deal with frustration is to use role plays. You can encourage him to imagine a child who has not been able to solve a certain problem and has been frustrated ; Then you ask him to take on another role and to comfort that same child. In this way you will be teaching him that there are always other points of view and that nothing is black and white.
Encourage appropriate activities for the child
Children are very curious so it is not uncommon for them to engage in tasks that are beyond their abilities. This is a way to grow and learn but when the child is not prepared to face certain challenges, he can become frustrated and if this happens often, his self-esteem will end up being damaged. Therefore, make sure that the goals your child sets are appropriate for his age and within his reach.
Last but not least, don’t forget that your example is the best strategy for teaching a child to handle frustration.